My DH is a great father. He helps me with the kids, he will happily look after them both on his own, he will cook dinner if I ask him to. He always baths the boys when he's home. He works shift work including nights, but he is able to sleep at work so he can still help even when he's been on night shift. He will do whatever I ask, but I generally have to ask. This isn't because he doesn't have any initiative, it generally occurs when he's not sure where we're up to in our day. He always gets up to DS1 while I get up to DS2 so we both have unbroken sleep. He will also let me sleep in when he know's I've had a particularly bad night. I don't know what I'd do without his help TBH.